Relationship Reflection

Yesterday we had a very energizing full moon in the sign of Aries. It's a very get up and go sign, and it activates our desire to fulfill our big dreams, in alignment with our sense of purpose at a soul level, otherwise known as our dharma. If you've been hitting the snooze button on your passion project, making excuses not to pursue a new interest, or feeling a lack of inspiration around a new direction that is calling you, think of yourself as receiving a cosmic zap to revive you this week. Nap time is over! In previous months I have promoted slowing down and getting your rest, and we still need that - but in balance with taking aligned action in our lives.

 

Now, we are in the sun season of Libra, which is a sign of balance and partnership. Recently I have been remembering a realization I had long ago, and I've been experiencing it in my own life in a profound way.

 

When you shift your perspective towards a relationship of any kind, the relationship changes. Adjusting your attitude towards a person or relationship provides an opportunity for the relationship to transform. Why? Because a new dynamic can arise, which may even override an old pattern.

 

This doesn’t mean having new expectations of someone, or new demands. It means you embody your higher self and show up in a different way, holding the frequency that you want to share with another person. This gives the other person a new vibration to unconsciously respond to, and then the dance begins. Instead of wanting the other person to change, you change, and act as a mirror for the other person to then embody their best self. And what a beautiful dance that is. All of a sudden, an old trigger disappears, so then there is no reason to react so strongly.

 

Think about a challenging relationship that you have. Where are you placing blame, pointing the finger, or criticizing? Can you suspend those thoughts and energies? What if you see the person as the light that they are and hold them in the energetic arms of compassion? Any simple shift in acceptance towards the other person might create more ease. Show up in the way that you want your dynamic to be - really play that part and if they don’t respond right away be undisturbed by that. Try this approach a few more times and just notice if anything shifts. 

 

***Of course, if you are in an abusive or dangerous situation it is imperative to hold boundaries and find a safe space. I am not advocating tolerating and suffering abuse. 

 

These days, when many people are expanding in consciousness and having awakenings, we all lift each other up and lead the way for one another, shining a light to walk each other home. You might be amazed by how you can grow with someone.

 

Here is a picture of me and my honey in Sedona last month at the energy vortex in Bell Rock. We really experienced quite an uplevel together and felt a deeper connection and new level of commitment.